While some people share their favorite sayings with car bumper stickers there is a horse farmer in North East Florida who shares his own profound quotes by posting signs for thousands of drivers to see on the way to and from work. This past week he posted a sign that said, “Forgiveness is the Ultimate Weight Loss“. It made me think about a woman at one of my seminars who said she lost 180 lbs immediately after she ended a bad relationship. Wow, I thought, that’s some serious weight loss. “Well,” she said, “that’s how much he weighed.” Sure there are many diets out there trying to help us lose weight but what many of us need to go on is a NEGATIVE ENERGY DIET. If you’ve ever ended a negative relationship or quit a job you absolutely hated or forgiven someone… you know what it means to remove negative energy, the kind that weighs you down like a ton of bricks, from your life. After you rid this person, job or resentment from your life you literally felt lighter and freer. You lost weight, felt happier and made positive changes in your life. One of my favorite quotes says, “Holding on to resentment and anger is like grasping hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who is getting burned.” Resentment, anger and negative energy also slows you down, limits your true potential and truly causes you to feel heavier. It’s no wonder weight gain accompanies the most difficult times in our lives. Sure, stress hormones, emotional eating, and lack of sleep are the mechanisms that pack the pounds on but underneath the hood, underlying all physical and chemical processes is ENERGY. This is a scientific fact. So if we want to be lighter, freer and happier we must change our energy. We must go on a negative energy diet and clear out the negative energy that is weighing us down. And the best place to start is to FORGIVE. When you do you will experience the ultimate weight loss diet.
Ask Forgiveness Questions: Ask yourself today who do you need to forgive. Who are you still angry at? What negative experience are you still thinking about? You may not even realize that you are still angry with someone until you really think about it. Think about who or what is holding you back. I did this 2 years ago and it made all the difference.
Make the decision to let go: For example: If you are Janet Jackson, decide to let it go. It happened and you can’t do anything about it now. Forgive yourself. Forgive Justin and move on. But seriously… forgiveness is a choice. It’s not easy but you can ask your heart and your mind to forgive. Even the central park jogger chose to forgive her attackers who left her for dead because she wanted to live a new life instead of die every day.
It’s for YOU. Remember you don’t forgive because you feel bad for someone. You forgive because you know that holding on to anger and resentment only hurts you. The person you are forgiving doesn’t even have to be alive or accept your forgiveness. But by forgiving you release all the hate, anger and pain that clouds the light that wants to shine inside you.